Sam:
In 2006 I met Sam at a bar. I was still technically dating Clay so I behaved myself. Clay and I broke up one week later and I promptly emailed Sam. I just had to open the lines of communication with him. He worked near by so I agreed to meet him for lunch, with a friend in tow. I needed moral support. He was a little older and handsome and had a great job and I just knew that he was different. That night my same friend and I met him for drinks. He and I had our first official date two nights later. I was smitten. He really opened me up sexually. He was a man. I had only dated boys before. He had taken me under his wing and shown me the ways of the world. He was completely unlike any other guy I had ever dated. It was a real grown up relationship. Or so I thought. My first warning should’ve been the fact that he had hair ties, eye makeup remover and tampons in his bathroom. No, he didn’t have a girlfriend. He was just that big of a man whore, he was prepared for anything. OR when he put on a sweater one night and it had numerous long blonde curly hairs stuck to it. My hair is brown. I was blind to all of that. It was a rocky romance. 3 months on. 2 months off. 3 weeks on. 1 off. 1 month on….you get the picture. This went on for over a year. He did tell me he loved me one time. I kinda believed him. But then he made out with another girl in the middle of a bar in front of two of my friends. I still believe it was on purpose so I would find out and dump him immediately. I found out later that I was never the only girl he was dating. Even when he was telling me he loved me. He is now married to one of my former friends. They just had an adorable little girl. I hope for her sake he has changed his ways. Only time will tell. He did a real number on me. I ended up on antidepressants and in therapy. My self esteem was shot and my heart was shattered. I feel sorry for the next guy.
Jeff:
This poor guy. He got the wounded, closed off, cold hearted version of me. He made me feel good about myself and I used him for that. I never had strong feelings for him nor did I ever consider him my boyfriend. But still there is no excuse for the way I treated him. I feel bad about this and I have apologized numerous times to him. The first time he accepted graciously. The next time he was drunk and yelled and insulted me for about 30 minutes before I ran out of the bar fighting back tears. I had apologized enough. He was just beating me up for his own entertainment. I was ready the next time it happened. I saw him at a music festival where we were both with a lot of mutual friends. He started in on me again, I had had enough. I gave it right back. Yelling at him to the point where he immediately left the bar and disappeared into the night. I found out later that he actually met a girl at the next bar he went to and they are now happily married. Congrats Jeff. I hope she never does anything to deserve one of your famous scolding’s.